The Friday Five: Second Edition

Five Questions answered by a mom somewhere in our great country about her sex life.

This week’s contributor Z, says this about herself:

I am a 39 year-old mom of a 1st grader, have been married for 10 years, work full-time outside the home and am currently relaxed after a great summer (we’ll see how long this lasts).

What’s the best thing about your sex life now?

I’m having more sex than I have in the last 6 years.  OK, part of this is due to the fact that we’ve been trying to get pregnant, so there are no annoying condoms to deal with and it’s really revived our motivation.  My husband and I are talking more openly about our sex life and our wants and needs, which is refreshing and liberating.  It also makes me feel closer to him to share these intimate thoughts, so it’s good for our marriage.

How would you compare your sex life before kids with after kids?

Before: fine
After: improving…at the moment GOOD!

Oh, and good lube is key. I really like Please lubricant by Good Vibrations.

What is the most important thing to you about your sexuality?

Hmmm.  Not sure… empowerment? monogamous fulfillment? The knowledge that there are ups and downs in my sex life, just like every other part of my life.  It can always get better.

What does being a sexual mama mean to you?

It means striving for a healthy balance of time, energy, giving and getting in my home life and family relationships. It means sometimes struggling for alone-time with my husband, even when it would be easier not to. This is a lot to achieve for me sometimes, but I’m learning to make this a priority. Now, if I could only get him to call a babysitter and set up a date on his own!

Anything fun or exciting in your sex life you want to share?  (I live vicariously.)

For the first time in my life, I own a vibrator and I LOVE IT!  It’s the best investment I’ve made in ME in awhile.  Whether I use it alone or with my husband, it spices things up.  I highly recommend exploring this option if you haven’t.  Check out the Hitachi Magic Wand Massager.  It is amazing!
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Thank you so much Z for participating in this week’s Friday Five!

Readers, what questions would you like to see in the Friday Five?  Post them as comments and you might see them in next week’s edition.

 Are YOU interested in participating?  Shoot me an email at slofmoms@gmail.com.

And don’t forget to send an email to slofmoms@gmail.com to enter the Sex Lives of Moms Bedroom Chemist Sex Kit Giveaway–you won’t want to miss your chance to get a fabulous, free, sexy kit to spice up your sex life.

Sex Lives of Moms “Bedroom Chemist™Kit” Giveaway

Looking for ways to spice up your sex-life?  I have one more spectacular, sexy kit from Bedroom Chemist to giveaway full of all kinds of goodies to spark anyone’s bedroom play. With products and toys to enhance desire, foreplay, and intimacy, this woman-owned company will help you break bedroom boredom (and was recently featured on the Today show).  You can read my review of our first Bedroom Chemist kit here.

While on vacation we used our second kit, the Great Sex kit.  We were excited to open up a new one (with extra heated anticipation given our enjoyment of our first kit) and I loved the discreet portability of the adorable pink lipstick vibe (it looks like a tube of lipstick) that I toted around in my makeup bag.  There was an edible body powder– yum!  And a fun book with great ideas for sexy dates.  Plus lots of little extras.

I’m telling you; these kits are fun, they add a layer of expectation and excitement (I mean, how often do you get to open up a secret sex present together?), and each one is different.

To enter for a chance to win, send me an email to slofmoms@gmail.com with Bedroom Chemist Giveaway in the subject line.

So end your summer on a high-note by entering to win this giveaway.
You must be 18 or older to enter.  You can see the complete rules here.

 

Vacation Sex

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There was a time, oh-so-long ago, during the first blush of love, when sex multiple times a day was a given. Now, if sex happens more than once a week it usually means that a) I’ve read a week’s worth of steamy novels (the Fifty Shades trilogy counts for half a week’s worth since they neither take, nor deserve more than a day of reading each) b) I’ve been drunk, a lot or c) I’m pregnant or trying to get pregnant.

Well folks, this has been a month for the history books since I have had sex so many times the past couple of weeks while on a (childless!) vacation with my husband, that we actually lost count without a, b, or c applying. (We celebrated by giving each other a big high-five).

So yes, vacation sex rocks and for all the obvious reasons: no kids, no kids, no kids, no kids, NO KIDS, NO KIDS, NO KIDS!!!

Without my kids around, vacation has been like this: leisurely morning wake-ups that often lead to leisurely morning sex, starry night walks in the summer heat holding hands like teenagers. (Has anyone else forgotten what romance feels like?) We ate out at delicious restaurants and talked, laughed, and I was reminded that, “Oh yeah! I really, REALLY, like this guy.” And thought, “Dammit, he looks hot tonight, and damn if I’m not gonna rip that shirt off him when we get back to the hotel, because I CAN and I have the energy to do it!”

I got to rediscover the very, very, hidden and buried inner tigress who thinks sexy thoughts, and does sexy things. And it has been lovely and reassuring to find that she was still deep down there somewhere. Because part of me was scared. “What if I get all the sleep I need, and dress up for my man, and have fun staying out as late as I want because I get to sleep in, and still didn’t feel like having sex that much?” Luckily my tigress was right there waiting for me.

So, yay! for vacation.

Well, except for this one thing.

Our jubilant and repetitive ardor did leave a not-so-pleasant gift behind. Let’s see if you can figure this one out. What do you get when you take two grown people acting like they’re twenty, with a hankering for some hanky-panky, and add them to a dark, deserted, romantic hot spring in the middle of the mountains at midnight? That’s right, you got it, this fabulous recipe creates a fabulous urinary tract infection!!

Hope you are enjoying your summer as much as I am. Have you had vacations that rekindled romance or intimacy for you?

Cheers!